deep throat

Complete Guide to Deep Throat. Techniques & tips

With the arrival of Deep Throat Sprays in the store, I received an avalanche of emails with questions of various kinds and almost all of them had the same common denominator: a question that someone ventured and others veiled. So I figured there's no shame in asking and I'd like to answer those who didn't venture as well and fire off the question of the century here:

How do I do deep throat without having the gag reflex?

We could agree to skip the part where I tell you that the name of this practice comes from the movie "Deep Throat" and film details

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Article dedicated to 18+, there are vulgarities, somewhat scurrilous words that I have partially censored (but they had to be said to make the point), and it talks about an extreme practice. This article is not a manual to be followed to the letter; you can consult a sexologist for medical information. Instead, everything here should be taken as a talk based on experience and personal insights therefore questionable, debatable and not absolute for everyone. Experiment with caution and be responsible. Also feel free to check out more related articles on the ooty website.

That said, let's just grin and rub our hands together and move on.

The deep throat consists of the ultra-advanced version of a blowjob; the penis past the deepest part of the mouth descends to the throat. Commonly referred to as "throat blowing" or "penis swallowing," these are inelegant terms but render the idea without much preamble.

Technically, past the mouth, slipped through the middle of the tonsils past the uvula, in the natural position of the head there is then a 90° bend and from there begins the part that is involved in deep throat. Normally the reflex (which the Americans call "gag-reflex") that causes the area to contract and elicit the retching is triggered as early as passing the tonsil-ugula area. As you know it is still a fairly high area, so when you start out know that there is no reason to worry if you have this sensation right away, you are not really choking, you are still in the beginning and you are getting to the pharynx.

The epiglottis is a kind of valve that handles the passage of food and makes sure that nothing goes in the wrong place; it closes, isolating the trachea, protecting the airway and keeping it clear. Don't panic thinking that the penis might go to the wrong place. The epiglottis does its job, and you won't end up with your penis in a lung.

Why do they like it?

The most sensitive part of the penis is the highest part, the glans area, so as you go down, the throat goes narrow and the glans can feel this kind of compression and more stimulation. But not only that, there is a much more psychological and emotional aspect to having something done that is not commonplace, it is not successful for everyone, it is therefore forbidden. Also, the difficulty in performing it makes it feel like having a big penis, which is hard to suck (men have delusions of size...it's inherent in them), and having a partner who tries hard to wrap their mouth and throat around it makes them feel powerful and superpowered.

Little variations to the natural rules of the human body we are already used to doing, you know? For example yawning, recreating that throat opening would be really helpful.

Deep Throat: Question of size and position

It seems a bit of a platitude...but in the deep throat, size matters. Sometimes we might say that certain sizes can make it really functionally and anatomically impossible (unless you are Heather Harmon!). A penis that is so very long and at the same time so very large in diameter is a case among them. The vagina has a certain elasticity that the throat does not. If it doesn't fit-it doesn't fit.

For all those who are more "human"

Sword eater: a position in which one tries to align the penis with the "verticality" of the throat. Therefore (for the recipient of the penis) the head should be oriented upward and backward, raising the chin well. In this way, the throat muscles are fully extended, and the position allows the channel to have no special obstacles given by the palate. Instead, he will place himself higher so that he enters vertically. Like a sword eater, hence, the name.

Swallow the sword

Negative aspect: little control on the part of the recipient of the penis in the throat. It is a position that does not allow easy movement in case one wants to stop or make adjustments to the position. For this reason, everything must be done very slowly and by first establishing a gesture to do in case one does not feel like continuing.

For whom it is indicated: it succeeds best for those whose penis has a straight line (and by straight I mean not pointing up nor down) since it has a better chance of entering without encountering too many obstacles.

Over the edge: In this position, as the name implies (over the edge), the one receiving the penis is lying with his head facing backwards and off the edge of the bed mattress. The one who is to penetrate, on the other hand, may stand (or squat depending on height) off the bed, with the forward-facing torso leaning over the partner. It is a mix between the missionary position and 69.

Positive aspects: the neck muscles are more relaxed because the body does not have to support the weight of the head that is left over the edge of the bed, thus preventing further contractions due to holding the position and supporting the head.

Negative aspects: controlling possible reflux is more difficult. It is a position to be taken with "tongs" since care must be taken that those on top do not abandon their weight on the head of those below. In case of sudden reflux there is a risk of suffocation as the obstruction of the throat with the head left behind is quite dangerous. To be practiced very slowly, in a controlled manner, always alert to those below. It is essential to establish a visible gesture, as the person performing the penetration has his head on the opposite side from that of the person receiving the penis and may not see difficult situations well.

Who it is suitable for: a position that may suit those with an upward curvature of the penis, such an inclination better suits the somewhat arched position of the throat.

Kneeling: a position for those who are attempting first approaches and want to begin to get acquainted. The person receiving the penis in the mouth is kneeling in front of the person penetrating who is standing. To be adjusted then according to heights by raising the butt from the heels or kneeling while sitting on the heels.

Positive aspects: certainly it is one of the positions where the recipient has more control. He can independently adjust the depth of penetration and seek the most comfortable angle. In case one has a feeling of discomfort or the instinct to put it back he can move quickly. Perhaps of the positions we could say it is the somewhat safer one because control can remain in the hands of the person with the penis in his mouth. If things go particularly well, it is not certain that intercourse cannot become more intense and it is the one who offers to move slowly with the pelvis forward penetrating the throat. All to be judged, depending on how things go.

For whom it is indicated: certainly for those with a downward curvature of the penis who can take advantage of the slightly downward position of the throat or at most straight.

Breathing, tongue and swallowing: how to manage it all?

But guessing the position and having the most "swallowable" penis in the world is not enough to make deep throat successful.

How do we operate the nose, throat and mouth if there is a penis between them? Let's see how we can manage everything.

Consider that the reflex that causes the gag reflex is given by a mechanical system. Let's be honest: our throats are not made to hold ca**i. We have to be honest.

It is operated by a valve that, as we said at the beginning, with a contraction, opens and closes the passage to allow food to go in the right direction by isolating the airway. But not only that, the fine palate will also close the upper airway (those that connect to the nose). This is pure mechanics. The body is designed to be a perfect machine and we cannot totally override the gag reflex, however, we can train ourselves to make it less sensitive and control it at certain times.

Learn to Breathe Deepthroating

By taking advantage of the above principle you will be able to well understand how to manage breathing.

Just as it is impossible to swallow while inhaling, in the same way while the penis goes down the throat it is not possible to inhale, to be more precise I could say that "it is not functional." This is because when something goes down the throat (whether it is food, but even more so if it is a penis

Anyone who says he can breathe through his nose while his penis is in his throat ... has probably read too many blogs by vain users who have never done deep throat. Or has mistaken a good blowjob for deep throat.

If the channel is totally occupied by the penis, no air passes through. Unless you're sucking on a straw-thin penis, which, I would say, would be a big problem of wasted time.

Therefore,

before the penis is pushed down the throat (as long as it is still in the mouth) you inhale (no need to take apnea breaths).

as the penis descends into the throat you exhale through the nose (when it occupies the whole cavity no air will pass through even to get out so at that time you will not be able to exhale)

As the penis comes out of the throat and into the mouth you inhale again

if the penis remains deep for a few seconds you hold your breath, about the same as you do between breaths, prolonging that moment by a little without overdoing it.

If you do it right you will find that this is not an imposed rule but is a system that comes naturally precisely because it is not possible to do otherwise. There would be little to explain in truth, but the question "How can I breathe? I am short of air" is one of the most common precisely because there is a misconception that it is physiological to be able to inhale with a penis in your throat: it is not.

It goes without saying that doing deep throat is not "stick it down your throat and leave it there." There is a back and forth motion that is similar to blowjob, this allows for good stimulation while still breathing and not going into asphyxiation. It is not recommended to perform this movement in and out of the throat too quickly; it should follow the body's natural breathing so as not to hyperventilate.

With all the small and possible variations depending on the type of training we have done, our conformation and the size of the penis (but let's not be X-Men by saying things that are not possible to the human body!).

If you think controlling the breath is difficult, know that many smokers already have a more advanced type of control than nonsmoking individuals and naturally make a movement that closes the throat by passing the smoke directly from the mouth to the nose as they exhale. No one taught them this; they "learned by doing." And even in this case (though very different) you can learn little tricks to manage your breathing by training.

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P.S: However, it is said that smokers are at a disadvantage in deepthroat because their lungs are compromised by the damage caused by cigarettes. Will this be true? Who knows.

Think also of swimmers, they manage to catch air and manage breathing very precisely and quickly despite physical exertion by refining technique in training after training.

Learn to manage language

There is no real absolute rule. The size and shape of the tongue also play a role in its management.

Let's say that the instinct when introducing something is to "pick up" the tongue by curving it and pulling it back to the back of the mouth, under the lower palate. This "cushion" shape can be very helpful for some (mind you, I said lower palate, not upper, so not against the top of the palate).

A more "professional" version is to keep it as flat and relaxed as possible: make room in the oral cavity so that the penis can pass "flush" going into the throat without rubbing too much against the palate. This would accentuate for the throat the feeling of alarm by stimulating pharyngeal spasm. Some even manage to keep it out of the mouth and caress the base of the penis with the tongue. Much more space is created in the throat; on the other hand, some extra training is needed. It is nothing impossible, slowly you can do it by training.

If you have a very sensitive deep part of the tongue, get used to brushing it with a toothbrush (gently) when you brush your teeth. It's great training to get used to increasing tolerance (and you'll have a nice clean tongue!).

Keep calm & relax you tongue.

How does salivation work in deepthroat?

Saliva is your best friend during oral intercourse somewhat at all levels. Swallowing it is always a waste; any good blowjob goes hand in hand with optimal lubrication of the mouth.

For deep throat, although many decant to drink lemon squeeze first,

Or rather. The glands that stimulate saliva production are under the tongue the first and the others rather far back from the oral cavity. During a "canonical" blowjob, although we do not swallow, saliva production may be limited if we do not go very deep. Therefore, the sprays to stimulate salivation are effective, simple and go a long way.

If you are accustomed to fairly deep blowjobs (while staying within the realm of a blowjob) and do them with all the proper care, you will find that the saliva will come on its own.

For deepthroat, saliva is important for lubrication, but it has little to do with whether or not there is a gagging sensation or you can get down the throat. Saliva is not the ultimate solution if the glans enters the mouth and is greeted by a drooling swamp then it will go smoothly.

If you started with fellatio and got off on the right foot, you will find that the deeper you go, the more rather thick and slippery saliva will be produced, and believe me, coming down will come in spurts, as it should. But whether you can overcome the gag reflex and go down with the penis that's another matter.

Regarding body hydration, it is true that dryness of the oral cavity can also depend on poor hydration. Drinking the right amount of water throughout the day is always healthy; this applies to a person's overall well-being and health, not just the deep throat.

Certainly one help is to lubricate the penis with a few drops of lubricant so that it does not make particular friction by rubbing against the mucous membranes generating irritation that would stimulate the throat to go into alarm and contract.

How do you train deep throat?

My advice is always to train with a dildo, at a quiet time when you don't feel the pressure of having to prove something on you and you are not embarrassed by the first perhaps unsuccessful results.

If you alone are in control of the situation, you can adjust as you wish by pushing yourself as far as you feel you can go without forcing. ?

Men are not always good at receiving deep throat. In fact. Almost never the first few times are they good at it. It's not only all in the hands of the skill of the person doing it, but also the recipient has to put his own spin on it. Instead, there they are, eager to re-interpret the latest porn they saw in the morning before going to work, thrusting and wiggling as if they had an ungovernable cobra constrictor between their legs.

Therefore I would exclude the human subject from the first attempts ?‍♂️. For the peace, safety and self-esteem of all.

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Nine steps to getting used to deep throat:

Choose a dildo made of safe material of a non-exaggerated size that can fit. You can start with a dildo that is 12 to 15 cm and has a natural shape, not too chubby. No exaggeration. (In my opinion, the Ootyemodildos are always the best and the most realistic - personal opinion - )

If it has a suction cup and you want to try it starting from a frontal position, you can attach it to the shower wall for example (also useful in case it elicits gags--the housewife in me also thinks about cleaning). You will have to tilt it a little when using it to follow the natural slope of the throat.

Use some water-based lubricant that is suitable for oral sexand safe for the body. Mind you, suitable for oral sex. There are also mildly flavored ones, I wouldn't overdo it with strong flavors, but a mild flavor is fine, covers the plastic licking sensation and stimulates salivation. Green Apple, Vanilla, Orange, Peach are the most suitable.

Breathe, relax, don't stiffen up. It's just a rehearsal, there's no one to surprise, and you can stop whenever you want (using the dildo for other things too...just in case).

Start at the glans, introduce it into your mouth slowly and try to reach toward the bottom of your mouth, go back and forth a few times as if you were giving a blowjob. Then you will still be breathing quietly through your nose both when it sinks in and when it comes out.

Now try to start taking control of some things: give it a try, when you pull your head back and the penis is slowly going out, take the breath in through your nose. Get in the habit of matching your inhalation with the phase when you pull your head back. Try holding the penis at the back of your mouth for a few seconds; you will naturally hold your breath. You can also take the breath in as the penis advances, before it goes down your throat, if you feel better.

Figure out how to position the tongue. As I told you, it's a fairly variable element, try keeping it flat and relaxed, resting at the base of the mouth and take the penis as deep as you can. Try again, moving it a little bit like a pad toward the tonsils and go as deep as you can again. Do a few tests and try to figure out in which position you feel less of a gagging sensation and in which you can go as deep as you can. If you want to take a measurement, help yourself by taking the base of the penis with your hand and making a loop with your fingers to see where you got to when the dildo comes out of your mouth. Find your comfort position.

Not everyone is comfortable with a straight penis position because it does not align with the oral cavity, which is vertical. You can try attaching the dildo to something angled higher than your mouth. Not all houses have sloping walls ?, but maybe all have a ceramic bathroom sink and that might be a good spot to get more slant and alignment with the throat.

If you have proceeded slowly, there will come a point where you will feel a pharyngeal spasm resulting in a feeling of wanting to vomit. The retching at first always comes, and it is natural that it should. If you've been going slowly, you will certainly come to a point where "you're almost there," that inch where if you go even further down, you feel the convulsions will begin. That is your sensitive spot, and you can train yourself to feel that sensation less and go deeper by repeating the exercise several times and gaining a few millimetres or centimetres as you go as you practice.

Things not to do in the deepthroat

Use food: Contrary to what some articles in blogs and forums I have read around the net say, I am of the opinion that it is not advisable to use fruits and vegetables for deep throat training. 

To give my absolute version, I would say that it is not good to use anything that is crushable, impregnable and without a base. One example out of all: banana . By sucking on it its texture becomes spongy and mushy, it can break really easily and choke us both as it goes down and as we pull it out. Even if we are lucky and it doesn't break down completely, small pieces might stick to the back of the palate, stimulating coughing, retching or anything else unpleasant that we don't want.

The same applies to zucchini, cucumbers, carrots and any other vegetable. Food is not ideal for these experiments, and I strongly advise against trying your hand at crude attempts especially when you are alone and could choke without anyone to help clear your airway immediately.

Deep throat is extreme enough on its own, it does not need to be aggravated in level by nonsense done just because some forum threw in banana workouts.

There are fuck buddies for that. There are the particularly good, patient and helpful partners or there are also the dildos that have always been great friends with everyone. I vote for the training dildo.

Do not give up on the first try: there is no reason to demoralize anal sex would not even exist. Why shouldn't the same rule apply to deep throat?

If the feeling is that the spasm is coming slowly pull the dildo out and take a breath. If you can do this the ideal thing would be to pull back a little and try to hold on for a few seconds. Slowly you will find that you are able to hold on more and more and the back and forth movement will be just to breathe rather than to escape the convulsions.

Making attempts after eating: let's say it is not the ideal thing however some people incur this problem especially after dinner. We could say that the rule of swimming in the sea during vacations should apply. Only 3 hours after meals.

Even in the morning is not bad for training, before breakfast, on an empty stomach--like medicine.

Overdoing it: it is never recommended, and although deep throat is an extreme practice even then it is not indicated to overdo it because we have structures in the throat and membranes that can be damaged.

I would say finish at the hospital slow movements, without overdoing the lunge, being careful on the receiving end, and don't swing sideways. If you have seen some science fiction movies then do like the docking of modules to spacecraft, that is slow, precise, directional.

If you have glans piercings, pay three times as much attention as others. They are made of hard material and can cause injury much more easily.

Consider that one of the most dangerous things (besides possible injury) is the choking that can come from reflux. If you have ever choked on a soda you can understand. You have to be careful because in case you have to put it back if the penis is in your throat you could choke.

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Curiosities we (usually) don't consider sexy

Your eyes might water : eh yeah, it's those times when maybe it's better to have a very good waterproof rimmel because you might end up with a face drained of black ... some people particularly like it, so welcome it. ???

Your nose might run : it happens, it is not something we consider very sexy usually but in deep throat there is this possibility and there is nothing bad or upsetting about it. In another circumstance we would certainly feel embarrassed but there is no need to be alarmed or shy if during this practice your nose runs. Believe me, in the excitement of the moment it doesn't really matter and usually men are used to seeing these things in porn movies that emphasize these conditions (as if it were an extreme effort to make them feel like a dick) so they are ready for a mask of mucus and tears so...don't worry.

There might be noises: the panorama of noises our throat might make is very varied. There is a little bit of everything, straining, wheezing, "underflows," "wheezes," sometimes half burps. It can happen especially for those who are not yet familiar with breathing. Sure, they are not beautiful, but let's take it philosophically without stiffening or feeling embarrassed.

We might vomit:

Throat spray

The sprays to desensitize the throat are very practical and in most cases also lend a good hand. They are usually based on 5% Benzocaine a component that goes to temporarily reduce sensitivity in the area where it is sprayed. One or two sprays at most, this is the recommended amount.

It is good not to overdo it because the body communicates its discomfort through pain also to avoid hurting ourselves as a signal that we are overdoing it or in our games have taken a turn that physically we are not ready to handle safely.

The goal should not be "to feel nothing" but should be to help reduce the sensitivity that does not allow one to go deep.

The sprays should be sprayed in the back of the mouth, as a reference point the area of the uvula and tonsils to be clear. It would be good to try not to swallow right away, you need saliva anyway so if you can, resist the instinct to feel watery in your mouth and swallow. Some sprays have an explicit instruction not to swallow them, so they should be sprayed, wait about ten seconds and then spit out the excess.

The fact that they are tasty can also be very helpful for a salivation issue-our taste receptors are activated and the mouth lubricates more.

They are suitable for anyone, regardless of beginner or advanced level. How much do they help you? It depends, for some they can be instrumental in making progress, for others they can't change the situation, it all depends on each person's sensitivity.

Magic tricks

Alas, I wish I didn't have to get away with it in a few lines and have something to expound on but the truth is only one: there are no magic attention shifting tricks and they suggest this method which I have never tried but I recommend you try (and in case if you want to let me know, write to me if there was a result!):

Open your hand (just one is enough), fold the thumb toward the inside of the palm, close the other fingers by clenching them as in a fist. At this point clench the thumb into the fist. This change of attention that it takes for the body to clench the thumb in the fist is just enough to distract you a little from the feeling of alarm that has been triggered by the wheezing by making you resist it more.

I am very curious to know if it works.

Is Deep Throat a myth?

Let's clarify this point. It is not a myth. Boom. Did I blow it out of the water? I don't think so.

Deep throat is not something that interests the vast majority of men. Fellatio, that yes, we could say is universal, everyone likes it no matter if you are straight, gay, trans or whatever sexuality you have. Every penis-minded man is quite interested in fellatio. But not everyone is courting deep throat. Why?

Various reasons.

The first: not everyone experiences intense sensations. The penis (sorry to say, guys) is not equally sensitive along its entire length. Therefore, many do not get any greater benefit than fellatio and, indeed, prefer a good blowjob done right rather than having the idea of getting in your stomach with background music of gagging.

Deepthroating, to this day, is associated with the world of BDSM, or at any rate of an "extreme" context in which there is a strong disconnect between the roles since this practice rides the "submissive"-"dominant" strand. The fact that one of the two partners does something seemingly strenuous and unnatural to the human body and, in doing so, makes some sort of effort is interpreted as an act of devotion, of reverence, a service that requires a certain level of skill.

If this sounds clichéd, well, know that in sex and eroticism more generally the things that "pull" are always all clichés or desecrations of clichés. The line is often blurred, and past that line begins what we consider "extreme."

For deep throating, unless you are the embodiment of deep throating you need the right physical condition (of both of you), you need training, some practice and the right position.

It can please the giver but also the receiver ( the so-called "givers"), I know of women (but it also applies to men) who enjoy doing it so much and feel gratified by having their partner's penis completely in their mouth. Sex is a universe of all different tastes and while it is true that some people hate it, others, love it.

Certainly, it is not good for it to become an obligation, either imposed by the partner or imposed by ourselves. BDSM practices are always to be understood in the maximum benefit for both of us, and deep throat (although I do not consider it an exclusive prerogative of BDSM) can also follow the same rule-not-rule: it can be an invitation, but not an imposition if one of us does not enjoy doing it.

I think I've said a lot of things, I'm starting to get my fingertips steaming from tapping on the keyboard.

I leave you to your experiments. Mind you, always conscientiously, among conscious, consenting and in this case...patient adults.

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